How should you communicate with a guy you like in between dates?
Many people obviously resort to texting. I think that’s what we’re used to these days – texting each other relentlessly until we see each other again.
The problem with that is texting doesn’t really create a real connection. It can create banter, it can allow us to flirt a little bit and make each other laugh, but it doesn’t create nearly the same connection as being in person or being on the phone.
I want to argue for the phone call right now, and I’m going to tell you exactly how to do it…
I am a big proponent of The 3-Minute Phone Call. Most of us get embarrassed at the idea of spending an hour on the phone with someone we’re dating. That seems like a big deal.
In fact, a lot of the hour-long phone calls that we do end up having with people we are attracted to tend to happen by accident.
It’s that moment where you call someone and you didn’t mean for it to be a long phone call, but then you get tied up talking to them because you’re having a good time, and then you have that moment where you go, “Do you know we’ve been on the phone for 2 hours? Can you believe that?” And it’s a fun moment because you realise how much you’ve connected and had a good time together. But it shouldn’t start out that way.
So here’s how you do The 3-Minute Phone Call in between dates:
You call your guy up and you say:
You: “Hey, how’s it going?”
You: “I just wanted to give you a quick call and see what you were up to. I’m actually in between meetings right now [or whatever it is you’re doing], but I just wanted to see how you were doing. Up to anything fun?”
Him: [Tells you what he’s up to… then he asks you about your day]
You: “Well, I’m doing this meeting and then actuallytonight I’m going to this really cool thing. I can’t wait, I’m going with my girlfriends [whatever it is you have planned]. Anyway, I have to run. I didn’t have much time, but I wanted to call and hear your voice.”
And then you quickly get off the phone.
Now, this is beautiful, because just as he may be asking the question,“Hmmm, does she have too much time on her hands? Am I going to be on this phone call for a long time?”, you flip the script.
You may have initiated, but you are also the one who’s leaving and after only a few quick minutes. But you leave him with a real genuine hint of sweetness, because you say, “Anyway, I have to go, I just wanted to hear your voice.”
And that’s where you really build that connection because he realises that you’re vulnerable in a good way, enough to give him a compliment and let him know that you like him enough to think about him randomly in the middle of your day.
And then you put forth that little bit of effort to do something proactively instead of waiting for him all the time.
It’s actually incredibly sexy when a woman does this in small doses. You don’t want to be going out there chasing him relentlessly and over-investing when he’s not investing in you, but that little bit of effort just every now and again, just one percent, can actually feel really good.
It will actually make him feel very special, and he’ll see you as the sort of woman who gives value instead of just taking it.
So that’s the 3-Minute Phone Call. Stop texting all the time. Don’t be afraid to do this. You won’t seem desperate; you will actually seem incredibly confident because you had the guts to give him that quick call and do it but in a non-needy way.
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